DEAR MR. FELDMAN…. OUR RESPONSE…
We have a feeling that Mr. Feldman is trying to bait us into a new excuse to add to his repertoire of lawsuits. Those lawsuits are lining his pockets. They are not going to children damaged by the Chabad Lubavitch community. He has already said that.
We are writing this disclaimer so that it is clear that this is an OPINION based upon his own responses to questions we asked and his refusal to respond to others. Everything we post here a counterpoint to his directly made points.
In the event that Mr. Feldman wants to claim that what follows were not made by him, or in case he decides to remove them, we have copies of Mr. Feldman’s own emails which come with every post. If this is not the REAL Yosef Feldman then let it be very clear, that our counterpoints are relevant regardless. His name could have been John Doe and it would not matter. The statements are a unique example of the representations by the Chabad Lubavitch community through a “spokesman” of sorts.
What follows under LM are our OPINIONS of Mr. Feldman’s own responses. He would have been quite wise to waddle off into the Australian sunset but he did not. He responded last night and it is to that we make our remarks.
As a general matter, Mr. Feldman’s responses to our questions which he promised to answer, say more in what he does not type than in what he does. They reflect a level of hypocrisy and speak to every single criticism we and others have had of the Chabad Lubavitch community. They reflect the community’s beliefs that rape and molestation are a matter of semantics, that a serial rapist can even give Teshuva enough to help the nightmarish dreams that each victim undoubtedly suffers every night, that Smicha is to be taken lightly, that the Chabad community and frankly Yosef Feldman should not be accountable for their collective misdeeds because, well… those misdeeds are not as they appear. They are not RELEVANT.
LostMessiah, August 2, 2016
YOSEF FELDMAN AND LM: Point and Counterpoint….
I just noticed your last comment.
I said that I’ll answer RELEVANT questions…
LM: The word “Relevant” provides you and your community the opportunity to creatively dodge questions that make you uncomfortable. The issue here is that by not answering the questions, you have answered them entirely and given them significant “relevance”. The conclusions to be drawn are quite honestly that your community makes its own rules and lives by its own laws. By not responding, you are simply confirming. You are permitting the default response and are anything but transparent. You are certainly nothing if not predictable.
I answered all the relevant questions and I also explained why the first two weren’t relevant.
LM: They were very relevant. Your explanation is a poor excuse for a response and an affirmation that what is happening is unKosher.
Re the further questions I don’t think there’s any misunderstanding by anyone re what constitutes rape and molestation. The only exception with regard to touching genitals is if it’s clearly not of a sexual nature like by an agreed Bris, then it’s not molestation…
LM: A Bris should not even be part of the narrative. No one is claiming that the Mohel abused a child in front of his family and friends during a brit-milah. We are not going to even begin with the “Metziza b’peh” discussion, however.
Not of a sexual nature? When a child gets his or her genitalia physically touched by a teacher or a Rabbi that child is being molested, damaged, hurt and forced into a lifelong nightmare, ge’enom. Full stop. Like the priests in the Catholic Church, if he has no orgasm, gets no sexual gratification, it is not “of a sexual nature”? Please define, sir.
There can be no exceptions to touching unless by a doctor or in some circumstances a parent, that makes “touching” okay. Sexual gratification or sexual anything should not be the defining factor. This issue must be black and white.
I vehemently disagree that lawsuits to defend my falsely affected reputation has anything to do with shaming or causing any negativity to victims and as I constantly emphasise, the contrary is true, that the victims cause is really hampered by exaggerations and lies against anyone involved, as any sensible person understands…
LM: Your reputation is well earned and even better deserved. Your comments to our post, of your own volition, only further solidify that point. You are in court to financially benefit from the criticism of others. There are no exaggerations and lies. You perpetuate everything that is wrong with your community and now you want to capitalize on it. For your defendants, the great collective of journalists and others who have criticized you, we hope to be an inspiration for their defense attorneys. You have not been defamed. If anything, you have been spared the true humiliation and shame you should have felt. The victimizer really should in our view be victimized.
Re the Teshuva issue I also answered earlier re the three perpetrators I know about.
Again I believe the perpetrator I spoke about re Teshuva tried to do his best to make amends with all of his victims. Perpetrator two who’s in jail I understand didn’t try to make amends and perpetrator three who left the country I don’t know the status but I believe not.
LM: There is no making amends, in our view, for touching a child or adult and violating him or her. Sorry to our readers for the graphic details that follow:
There is no making amends for a man who forcibly or by way of coercion sticks his penis in the anus of a boy or the vagina of a girl. There is no making amends for the anal fissures that the boy suffers daily for the rest of his life or the possibility that a raped female child will never be able to have children.
There is no way to make amends for the outright theft of a child’s innocense. That can never be returned. It is stolen by a thief and to add insult to injury trampled on and further plundered by people such as yourself and your community who flippantly respond to allegations with comments like those you have provided to us.
These children, the abused, the victims deserve better. They deserve some form of justice and even more a form of redemption. Their souls will forever be haunted and you and your ilk are only a small piece of the shadows that will forever hang over their heads.
You are a shameful man, Mr. Josef Feldman. The Chabad Lubavitch with whom you associate, whom you defend, whom you shield from scrutiny tarnish the very soul of the greater Jewish community. Your comments here shed light on the very thing we want to change about the ultra-Orthodox Jewish world that idolizes you and your rabbis, its lack of humanity, skewed morality and all in the name of G-d. Your G-d sir, is not ours.
I also responded my opinion re the organisations and individuals who have harassed victims who have come forward and family members of such victims, that proper Teshuva hasn’t taken place even though that most that were involved I believe are trying to rectify that but I am amazed and extremely disappointed that Tzefania Waks hasn’t as yet received an apology from anyone in Melbourne…
LM: Mr. Feldman, your opinion, amazement and disappointment are of little consolation to Manny and Tzefania Waks and others like him. It is all lip-service, a tale full of sound and fury, signifying nothing. You would have been better off never responding to our questions or our criticism. You fed the fire and we thank you for it.
We will continuously remind people of your words, as they clearly represent the Chabad Lubavitch community with which you associate. While we would never wish something bad upon someone and certainly not a child, you will never understand the voices of the abused, silenced and then ignored children, until you walk in their shoes. You will never understand the feelings of the families until you have felt their pain for yourself. Until then, it will always be easier for you to diminish, respond flippantly, and file lawsuits to capitalize.
Were it not for the very fact that we would be dooming your children or grandchildren to inevitable destruction, we would wish that one day you do get to walk in those shoes. Dare we not.
Instead we will say that we hope you will do the right thing and donate every penny of your proceeds to causes that openly and outrightly help families and their victimized children. We hope you will acknowledge in every paper and synagogue, class and family discussion, that there is a problem of abuse, molestation, cover-ups, harassment and shunning that poisons the lifeblood of your community specifically and the entire Jewish world generally and needs to be extricated.
We surmise that you not capable of doing the right thing because your narrative is so ingrained that right and wrong have become muddled existential debates enshrouded in a cloak of blue and white tasseled robes. Even were you to understand the parlance, the cost would be too high for you to have the “betzim” necessary to take steps toward the purification of your communities’ ills.
With the depth of insensitivity reflected in your own comments and correspondingly by default your community, one day you might just walk in the shoes of those whom you so flippantly ignore. Only then will you truly understand. It will be at that moment in time that you will know that which is irrelevant from that which is, indeed, RELEVANT.